I just rewatched the season one episode Court Martial, and it now dawns on me the real issue I have with the Abrams movies. The whole original argument used to plead Kirk's innocence is his many years of service, and how, as Kirk himself puts it, he has trained to not crack under the stresses of command. By the time he achieves the rank of Captain and command of the Enterprise, he is a seasoned veteran. Sure, he's still cocky and headstrong, and at times even arrogant, but he has years of service to back all of that up. Pine's Kirk is all of those things without the years of service. If TOS Kirk goes off the reservation, we know he can pull it off, because he's got the experience. When Pine does, it's because he has been handed his commission. Sure, he proves himself in the first film, but he still gets a promotion to Captain without earning it.
I still enjoy the Abrams films, warts and all. But that really paints redux Kirk as an entitled prick.